The best approach: listen, nod, let the other person express themselves at their own pace… or simply remain silent.
"You need to be strong." This phrase, often said tenderly, can, however, be a heavy burden. It implies that there is a "right" way to experience these moments and that showing emotions is a sign of weakness.
Instead of saying, "You have the right to feel everything you feel" or "Crying is normal."
What's better than talking?
In these moments, actions often have far more value than empty words. A hug (if it's welcome), a sincere look, a discreet presence can convey much more support than a long speech. Respectful silence is never empty: it's a space offered to the other person so they can experience their grief without pressure.
It's a matter of culture… and of humanity.
In many families, mourning is also a time for unity, solidarity, and the transmission of traditions. But this closeness should never become an obligation to talk. Being present doesn't mean explaining, fixing, or consoling at any cost. It's simply about being present.
It's important to remember that what remains in the memory of a grieving person is not the perfect words, but the attitude, respect, and sincerity they feel.
When in doubt, simplicity remains the best ally.
If you don't know what to say, it's often a sign that you're being thoughtful. And that's already a lot. A simple "I'm thinking of you," a brief message, or even just "I'm here" is more than enough.
In these delicate moments, the greatest proof of caring is not finding the right words... but rather daring to offer a loving presence and sincere support.
